by Michael | Feb 12, 2025 | First steps
The other day, I had a familiar conversation with an individual whose life has been turned upside down and whose marriage is hanging by a thread because of their abusive behavior. “I know I have some issues to work on. I want to, I really do! It’s just hard!” they...
by Michael | Sep 17, 2024 | Thinking Differently
“I used to get offended by everything,” Josh shared. “Someone driving slowly in the left lane: offended. The guy with 12 items in the 10 items or less check-out lane: offended. People explaining things I already know: offended. Not getting invited to the neighbor’s...
by Michael | Jul 15, 2024 | Root causes
One mistake I see folks who are trying to change harmful behavior make is focusing too much on the behavior. They promise themselves, and maybe their partner, to never do that hurtful thing again. They try—they really do—to not repeat violent or abusive actions. It...
by Michael | Feb 7, 2024 | Problem areas
It happens to us all. We receive feedback and it stings. Or someone is angry at us and we want them to stop expressing it. Maybe, we feel guilty about something we’ve done, but we don’t want to be reminded of it. What do we do? Too often, we get defensive. What is...
by Michael | Jan 15, 2024 | The Change Journey
In a group meeting the other day, someone asked about the change process. When might they start seeing results? How long will the change process take to finish? These are common questions for those beginning their work to stop harmful or abusive behavior. I totally...
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