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First Steps

These posts focus on what abuse is, why change is worth it, and how to get started on your journey.

Questions answered:
  • Am I really abusive?
  • Can I save my relationship/family?
  • How much trouble am I in right now?
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Problem Areas

Here we talk about how to handle difficult situations and how to stop specific behaviors that harm relationships.

Questions answered:
  • How do I stop doing _____?
  • How can I handle difficult situations better?
  • What do I do when my partner _____?
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Think Differently

Changing behavior often comes down to our ability to think about circumstances differently. That’s what this category covers.

Questions answered:
  • How can I “make different choices”?
  • What beliefs are driving my actions?
  • How can I respond rather than react?

Root Causes

Taking a deeper dive into what drives bad behavior helps us learn how to heal and change from the inside out.

Questions answered:
  • Why am I like this?
  • What’s driving my behavior?
  • How do I make change permanent?
Online Groups

Relationship Skills

Relationships are hard. These posts center on ways to make yours close and loving and keep it that way.

Questions answered:
  • How can I improve my relationship?
  • How can I reduce conflict?
  • What role does boundaries play?
Online Groups

Communication Skills

Communication can be difficult and none of us ever master it, but this category can help you get better.

Questions answered:
  • How can I get my partner to listen?
  • Why do certain subjects lead to conflict?
  • How can I express myself better?
Online Groups

The Change Journey

Posts in this topic explain milestones and challenges in your change journey, including how to know when you’re ready for a relationship.

Questions answered:
  • What is the process of changing?
  • How do I know I’m better?
  • Am I safe to be in a relationship?
Faith-based domestic violence resources

Resources and Reviews

Wondering what other resources can help you on your journey? Here are recommendations for some of the most useful ones.

Questions answered:
  • What other resources are out there?
  • How can I get the most from counseling?
  • Are there books I should read?
Faith-based domestic violence resources

Domestic Violence and Us

Blog posts covering more about the causes and cures for domestic violence and the Ananias Foundation’s approach. 

Questions answered:
  • Why haven’t we stopped domestic violence?
  • Where’s the help for those who cause harm?
  • What is the Ananias Foundation’s approach?

Most Recent Posts

The Difference Between Wanting and Needing a Relationship

After my divorce, I told my counselor that I’m the kind of person who needs to be in a relationship. “You know,” he said. “There’s a difference between wanting and needing a relationship.” Huh? I’d heard others make that statement before and I didn’t get it. Want –...

You Made Me Feel ___

Years ago during a marriage counseling session, I confronted my wife about a particular situation. “You made me feel …” I began saying. The counselor cut me off before I could finish my statement. “No one can make you feel anything,” he said. “What kind of dumb...

The Controversy and Truth About Mutual Abuse

Robert asked the question on the first night of our group: Is there such a thing as mutual abuse? He acknowledged that he’d acted badly—even abusively—at times in his marriage. In reviewing the definitions of abuse, however, he believed he’d also been the recipient of...

An Unfair Relationship and the Quest for Justice

This isn’t fair, Spencer thought, as he cooked dinner yet again for his stay-at-home wife and kids. Alejandra ruminated after her partner called her a control freak: His characterization of me just isn’t right! We all want fairness in life, and especially in our...

Protest Behavior

Chelsey pouts when her husband upsets her. She rolls her eyes, looks away, or focuses on her phone when he tries talking to her. Sometimes, she delivers a sarcastic remark or just walks out in the middle of a conversation. She wants him to know how wounded she feels,...