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First Steps

These posts focus on what abuse is, why change is worth it, and how to get started on your journey.

Questions answered:
  • Am I really abusive?
  • Can I save my relationship/family?
  • How much trouble am I in right now?
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Problem Areas

Here we talk about how to handle difficult situations and how to stop specific behaviors that harm relationships.

Questions answered:
  • How do I stop doing _____?
  • How can I handle difficult situations better?
  • What do I do when my partner _____?
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Think Differently

Changing behavior often comes down to our ability to think about circumstances differently. That’s what this category covers.

Questions answered:
  • How can I “make different choices”?
  • What beliefs are driving my actions?
  • How can I respond rather than react?

Root Causes

Taking a deeper dive into what drives bad behavior helps us learn how to heal and change from the inside out.

Questions answered:
  • Why am I like this?
  • What’s driving my behavior?
  • How do I make change permanent?
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Relationship Skills

Relationships are hard. These posts center on ways to make yours close and loving and keep it that way.

Questions answered:
  • How can I improve my relationship?
  • How can I reduce conflict?
  • What role does boundaries play?
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Communication Skills

Communication can be difficult and none of us ever master it, but this category can help you get better.

Questions answered:
  • How can I get my partner to listen?
  • Why do certain subjects lead to conflict?
  • How can I express myself better?
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The Change Journey

Posts in this topic explain milestones and challenges in your change journey, including how to know when you’re ready for a relationship.

Questions answered:
  • What is the process of changing?
  • How do I know I’m better?
  • Am I safe to be in a relationship?
Faith-based domestic violence resources

Resources and Reviews

Wondering what other resources can help you on your journey? Here are recommendations for some of the most useful ones.

Questions answered:
  • What other resources are out there?
  • How can I get the most from counseling?
  • Are there books I should read?
Faith-based domestic violence resources

Domestic Violence and Us

Blog posts covering more about the causes and cures for domestic violence and the Ananias Foundation’s approach. 

Questions answered:
  • Why haven’t we stopped domestic violence?
  • Where’s the help for those who cause harm?
  • What is the Ananias Foundation’s approach?

Most Recent Posts

Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs) and Developing Resilience

Adverse childhood experiences, or ACEs, are traumatic events that occur in childhood, but whose effects linger into adulthood. While the trauma of ACEs can affect a person’s physical and mental health, as well as their social and emotional well-being, there are factors which build resilience and mitigate their impact.

How to Stop Getting Defensive

Getting defensive hurts our relationships and personal growth. Not taking criticism personally, adopting a growth mindset, assuming good intentions, and applying good listening techniques can help us receive valuable feedback.

The Change Process: Ongoing, Continual, Never-Ending

Many beginning their work to stop harmful behavior wonder when they’ll start seeing results or when they’ll know they’re done. The change process never ends. It’s a cycle of recognizing areas for improvement, then addressing them by challenging our thinking.

Behavioral Activation – Feeling Better Without Pressuring Others

Behavioral activation is taking specific actions that create positive emotions. These include behaviors that align with what’s important to us or activities that we enjoy. Doing things that align with our values, developing skills that we want to master, or spending time on pursuits that bring us pleasure all qualify as behavioral activation.

How Change Happens

Unpacking what’s happening beneath the surface of our mind is how change happens. Cognitive behavioral therapy or CBT allows us this inside look. This process requires time, effort, and a fair amount of self-awareness, however.