Domestic Violence and Us

More about the causes and cures
Abuse in LGBTQ Relationships

Abuse in LGBTQ Relationships

When I was arrested for domestic violence, part of me was convinced they had it all wrong. I was not what the typical “batterer” looked like - some controlling woman-hater who beats up his wife to show her who’s boss. As awareness of abuse in LGBTQ relationships...

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Connecting Violence in the Media and Domestic Violence

Connecting Violence in the Media and Domestic Violence

I’m going to say something you already know: what we see in movies and on television doesn’t always reflect reality. Producers often have to suspend the truth in order to keep the story flowing and prevent audience boredom. While these liberties are usually harmless,...

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Our Reaction to Domestic Violence Actually Hurts the Cause

Our Reaction to Domestic Violence Actually Hurts the Cause

Public outrage over intimate partner violence is no surprise. We don’t like to see innocent people hurt. We defend victims. We want justice. However, our collective response to domestic abuse is actually part of the problem. There are far better ways to end domestic...

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Study: More Empathy for Dogs than Humans

Study: More Empathy for Dogs than Humans

What it means for domestic violence treatment programs   I recently read about a study that said people feel more empathy for dogs than each other. The research showed people fake news clips of a brutal attack on 4 different victims: a puppy, an older dog, a...

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A Different Approach Toward Domestic Violence Help

A Different Approach Toward Domestic Violence Help

Once upon a time, there were some people who lived in a village next to a river.  One day, a villager noticed a woman floating down the river. The woman was in the middle of the current and obviously in trouble, so the person did the right thing and pulled her to...

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Finding Yourself in the Story of Saul and Ananias

Finding Yourself in the Story of Saul and Ananias

How can a true story about a couple of guys that lived two thousand years ago be relevant to you and me today? After all, people and society have changed so much—few of us herd sheep anymore. One story might be very relevant, however, because human nature has not...

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A Domestic Violence Hotline Like No Other

A Domestic Violence Hotline Like No Other

Recently, my garage door opener remotes stopped working. I couldn’t figure out what was wrong or how to fix it (yes, I tried replacing the batteries). Then, I discovered a local garage door company that had a trouble-shooting hotline. After answering a few questions,...

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The Search for Meaningful Work

The Search for Meaningful Work

How Volunteering Can Provide Relevance and Opportunity When Your Job Does Not   I once had a job where I submitted policy language from new insurance products to state regulators for their approval. No offense to anyone in the insurance industry or government...

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