I don't want to hurt her.

How do I stop doing this?

I know it is wrong to hit a woman.

Is it possible to change?

I've tried to control my temper, but it hasn't worked.

What do I have to do to stay calm?

I'm in big trouble for losing my cool...again.

Is there any hope for me?

Guidance and encouragement for men

who want to stop hurting the ones they love

Hi. We probably haven’t met, but if you’re a guy who can relate to any of the statements above, then we have something in common. A few years ago, I was where you are. I felt scared, hopeless, and confused about the things I’d done and the trouble I was in. I wanted to change and was looking for answers on how, but there were few to be found.

That’s why I started the Ananias Foundation and we built this site – so guys like me can stop hurting the ones we love. There’s good news! Change IS possible, and you’re going to feel great about yourself when you do.

You may be here because your anger with your partner at some point escalated into violence. We’re here because we’re a community of men who have been there too. We want to help you discover the freedom of relationships without violence once and for all.

How do I change?

When I was in your situation, I couldn’t find the answer to this question in any one place. It was frustrating. I finally pieced it together, and I want to share the process I discovered with you.

The first step can be the hardest, but you’re not the first to take this step, and you’re not alone. Ananias Foundation offers you practical guidance and resources from a community of guys who have been in your shoes and successfully navigated the road to real, lasting change. With Ananias as your guide, you can finally begin your own journey to healing.

This is not a quick fix, but one that can lead to permanent change. And it is SO worth it. Your relationships with others and how you feel about yourself will be transformed for the better. One thing I’m certain of: you CAN do it. Dig in below.

I’m here for someone else

Maybe you arrived on this site not because you are a man who struggles with this issue, but because you know one who does. If you are a partner, family member, or friend and you’re wondering if this site might be a good resource to share, we have a page built just for you. Start there, then explore the rest of our content.

I hope you find this site helpful. If you do, or even if you don’t, please connect with us and tell us about your journey.


P.S. We built this site addressing men and assuming heterosexual relationships, but we acknowledge that women can be violent to men and intimate partner violence occurs in homosexual relationships as well. We wanted to keep the message simple, so please forgive us for our more narrowly focused wording. If you’re a woman or LBGTQ and you’re looking for help with this issue, know we want a better life for you, too, and the same principles for healing and change apply.