On the web


Here are some of our favorites from the internet. The first row are replays from our Topics in Transformation webinar series In the second row, we share recordings of Session 1 and 2 (of 8 total) from our Guidebook and on-line groups. The third row tells true stories of individuals who have bravely changed and become non-violent. After that, there are videos that highlight concepts we share in our material that we think you’ll find helpful.

The first in our Topics in Transformation webinar series, this video answers the question, “What to I do when I’m feeling disrespected?”


The second in our Topics in Transformation webinar series, this video answers two important questions, “Am I a gaslighter?” and “If so, how do I stop?”


Our third offering in our popular Topics in Transformation webinar series was this video covering the question, “Is reconciliation possible after domestic violence?”


Our fourth video from the Topics in Transformation webinar series addresses the question, “How can I handle criticism better, without reacting so strongly?”


The fifth and final in our Topics in Transformation webinar series looks at the issue of jealousy–why it is so often a problem in relationships experiencing harm, and how to stop being so jealous if you are. 


Session 1

Session 2

This is the first of a series recorded by Karen McMullen on the topic, Stop Emotional Abuse // How to Stop Abusing and Stop Being Abused. The series features an interview with Andrea J. Lee, who shares her own journey of realizing she was harming her partner, healing and change.

Dusty shares his story of being abusive and the process of coming to realize he needed to change. We love to see the great relationship he now has with his wife and kids after his positive changes.

More encouraging testimony from a man whose decision to get help took his life’s path into good outcomes instead of tragic ones.

This testimony from men in N. New Jersey, who talk a little about how they don’t want to be the person they were, and how they’ve changed and healed to enjoy a better life.

This is a longer video, but provides more background about the men and their change process.

We highlighted this video on our Brain Anatomy page, but it is worth repeating here to better understand why we sometimes react too strongly.

We like what this guy says about the benefits of self control, why it’s hard to develop, and how self control is cultivated in our minds.

Guy Winch makes a compelling argument for why we should take care of our emotions and minds with the same diligence we take care of our bodies.

This highlights a couple of common types of distorted thinking: catastrophizing and “shoulds.”

This short video dose a good job of contrasting how good emotional regulation changes what we experience in our relationships, and how taking a time-out can help our ability to regulate our emotions.

Childhood trauma, including absent, emotionally unavailable, or abusive fathers can affect our ability to have good emotional regulation and damage our potential to engage in intimate relationships in a healthy way. Here’s more about the father wound.

Movies worth watching


Sometimes Hollywood brings a message to life better than any other way. Here are some films that might be worth watching:

  • Unforgivable – Based on the true story of Paul Hegstrom, this made for TV movie stars John Ritter. The film is a realistic look at domestic violence and emotional abuse, but is also how healing wounds from the past can transform a person from violent to safe and capable of enjoying loving, healthy relationships.
  • Home Run – The story of a pro ball player who finds new hope when he gets honest about his substance abuse problem. While the issue is different, we think the filmmakers did a great job capturing the struggle to be honest and the better life possible when we do.
  • The Kid – This comedy starring Bruce Willis does a great job illustrating how our past can shape our present, and how revisiting the past can change who we are.
  • Courageous – An inspiring look at the roles men have as husbands and fathers and how our decision to do those well can bless us.