The Ananias Foundation helps men who have committed acts of domestic violence to stop hurting the ones they love. We offer a roadmap for change, share helpful resources, and connect men to a community of other men who have traveled the same road. We do our best to make these resources practical and understandable. We know this journey is difficult, so we encourage every man seeking this transformation.
To learn a little more about our history, the gap we are trying to fill, our vision, and the approach we take in our work, watch the presentation on the right.
What we believe
- Regardless of a man’s past, his future can be different.
- Domestic violence undeniably hurts victims. It also hurts those that do harm because it prevents them from experiencing a full and abundant life that comes from having close, loving, intimate relationships.
- Every man is worthy of love and the opportunity to experience an abundant life.
- It makes more sense to address domestic violence at the source than to clean up the consequences.
- Educating men about various forms of abuse is helpful, but it needs to be paired with practical strategies to help them respond differently.
- Shame-based messaging is ineffective because it damages a man’s belief that he is worthy and capable of change.
- Every man is capable of change if he is motivated.
- Change is difficult and it takes time and effort.
- This site probably won’t be all a man needs for change. (We hope it’s good start, however.)
- Violent reactions happen in an intimate relationship when a person is trying to protect themselves from some perceived hurt to an internal, emotional wound.
- A good counselor can help a lot.
- A relationship with God through Jesus Christ matters greatly in a man’s change process. Only God can fill some of the places we are trying to protect when we overreact to a situation.
What we do not do
- Domestic violence is wrong and we will never justify it.
- The hurt and fear victims experience is real and we will never minimize it.
- Victims are under no obligation to stay in a relationship with someone who hurt them. Nothing we say should be interpreted otherwise.
- While providing victims resources and support is important, there a lot of organizations already doing that well. We do not try to duplicate these efforts.
- Society has built laws to protect victims and punish perpetrators of domestic violence. We accept there will be legal consequences for those who do harm and will not argue otherwise. This is part of the motivation for change.
- We do not address legal issues.