What is emotional abuse, really?

What is emotional abuse, really?

Note: This post was written by Andrea Lee and originally appeared on her site here. We are sharing it with her permission. –Michael   It’s simpler than you think, and yes you may be doing it (a little or a lot) Sometimes when I chat with people about...
Focus on Your Part to Resolve Conflict

Focus on Your Part to Resolve Conflict

Domestic violence incidents frequently happen during conflict. Therefore, finding ways to resolve conflict early, before it escalates, is important to those of us working to stop our harmful acts. Here’s something I’ve learned from experience: the best way to resolve...
Reconciliation After Domestic Violence

Reconciliation After Domestic Violence

Re-establishing Trust and Safety Jamie knew that he blew it and he was beside himself. He’d lost control of his emotions and had hit his wife—something that he knew he shouldn’t do. Now she’s moved out and has talked about divorce, although she hasn’t filed yet. Is...
Is What I’m Doing Abusive?

Is What I’m Doing Abusive?

The other day during a group meeting, Gary described in some detail the words and actions he’s directed toward his partner over the years. Recently, his wife notified him that his behavior was abusive. Gary was surprised and confused, so he sought feedback from the...
What to Do With a Difficult Partner

What to Do With a Difficult Partner

When I was arrested for domestic violence, I knew I’d done something wrong. But I also knew I was not the only one creating problems in our relationship. The fact that I was the only one in trouble and the only one expected to change didn’t seem fair. If you have a...